Marge Hicke

Let’s continue our exploration of Self Esteem.

We began with self acceptance. How did it go? With self acceptance we learn we can trust ourselves and follow our inner guide to make right decisions. I like to say: Live by your values; be clear, honest and direct.

Today we will look at what we expect from ourselves.
Set realistic dreams, and expectations
Explore the fine line between expecting too much and expecting too little
Break dreams and goals into doable steps

Check out the “fear factors”.
How do you feel about exploring NEW thoughts, behaviors, possibilities? About trying something you have never done before?
About being successful?

Breathe in possibilities;
Breathe out fears.
Picture yourself confident and excited.
Breathe in;
Breathe out.

Try something new; learn more about yourself. Take a risk and accept yourself!

After writing about self-acceptance as a step to high self esteem I had the opportunity to go deeper with my own self acceptance. I took a risk and was richly rewarded. Exploring self acceptance is much like peeling the onion—lots of layers to be explored!!!

Blessings,
Marge

Healthy self-esteem is not something that just happens. Work and practice are needed, especially practice.

Let’s begin with acceptance–and the most important person to accept is YOURSELF! The practice of today is to accept both your strengths and your weaknesses. Perfection is not the goal! You do not have to be perfect to be a good person or to be loveable.

Take action:
Make a list of strengthes and weaknesses
Take a deep breath in and out;
Breathe in acceptance of youself;
Breathe out the  gift you are to others

Practing self acceptance will:
Increase productivity
Decrease stress
Decrease depression
Open the door for possibilities

Breathe in acceptance; breathe out possibilities

The possibilities are the gift for the day.

Marge

Are you seeing stars?  I hope so. 

A couple of weeks ago I was blessed to visit the Anza Borrego Desert in California.  The desert itself  is fascinating. Its ever changing shapes and colors depend on the light and darkness of the day or night.  But the night produced a show!

Some of us stayed the night and when the others had gone home we walked away from all the lights and watched the show.  I haven’t seen stars like that in years.  Brilliant!  The milky way. The shooting stars. Quiet!

I thought about how most of us spend our days in the cities where the cloud cover and city lights make it difficult to see the splendor above us.  Much like the sameness of  our days often keep us from seeing the splendor of the people we care about.

It is worth a trip to the desert!  Take you friends or family or both.  Be amazed; be creative.  Instead of trying to get everyone to see this or that constellation–create  your own. Listen to what others see in the huge sky with its wonderous lights.

And take several deep breaths–in and out–and allow that energy to fill your being and give you life.

Marge

Relaxation Meditation is a tool with multiple benefits

It focuses on breath and imagination. Breath and imagination are always with us–no remembering where we put them, no having to buy them. They are free gifts!

Relaxation Meditation provides an opportunity to learn progressive relaxation, which can be used alone for stress relief and calming or with the meditation for relaxation, quieting of mind and body, reduction of anxiety and enjoyment.

Studies have shown that stress kills and that relaxing and imagining reduce stress. Studies have also shown that relaxing increases performance, in the home, in the workplace, at school, on the stage, on the playing field, in the car, etc.

Enjoy Relaxation Meditation and enjoy life!

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Today I was given a beautiful gift, wrapped in shiny paper and tied with bunches of ribbon—time with a friend.  We had a bite to eat and then began to wander down many paths — paths of thoughts and ideas, of memories and dreams.  We visited the garden of courage of conviction and solid beliefs.  Exploring what we held as firm beliefs in our own lives, we recognized that there could arise situations that would shake those beliefs in such a way that it was possible we would act against them. And we saw the plant of compassion in that garden and next to it a packet of seeds labeled “judgment” waiting to kill that plant if we could not have Empathy–that ability to walk in another’s shoes. We recalled historical moments in our lifetimes that had been carried out by people who stood in their beliefs against all odds and what was accomplished by doing so.  Some accomplishments were horrific, with lack of morals and ethics; others were monumental with compassion and moral strength.  The strength of the belief, however, was unwavering.

As we left the garden, we renewed our belief that when we are clear, honest and direct and act with good conscience and compassion, we will create monumental moments in our lives!

Take a step in your garden today! Give yourself a gift and take with you someone whom you cherish.

In the midst of the stillness of wintertime, we can develop our awareness and mindfulness. When we are mindful, we are better able to be aware of our body, mind and spirit,—thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations. Refraining from judging them, we welcome these feelings as friends, with compassion. With empathy we can respond to our feelings and choose how we want to act in difficult situations because we are no longer reacting to these thoughts and emotions.

Take deep breaths and allow yourself to be aware of all that is around you. Delight in it!

Success has been in my thoughts recently, so I thought I might share a few thoughts and quotes and see how they fit for you.

I invite you to take a deep breath—and another–and close your eyes. Breathe in the successes you have had in your life, for I am sure there are many. I realize you may not recognize them because of the meaning society puts on the word “success.”

“We walk away from our dreams, afraid that we may fail, or, worse yet, that we may succeed.”
Finding Forester–a great film. If you have not seen it, you may want to rent it.

“Success is liking who I am;
Liking what I do;
And liking how I do it.” Maya Angelou

I wonder what success is for you. For the Olympic contender it is doing better today than yesterday; doing personal best. For all of us it is doing our personal best and, yet, that is different for each of us. For the shy person it may be a smile to a stranger; for the clinically depressed it may be getting out of bed; for the CEO it may be the big contract.

Some say “Success is the quality of the Journey.” I say, take time to celebrate the successes of your day; write them in a journal or in your planner. What we focus on grows! So focus on and celebrate the project you finally began and the time you took for yourself and the letter you wrote to a friend and the e mail you answered—and —and — and ……. and I will celebrate the success of finally sharing these thoughts with you.

Enjoy each moment! Take a couple of deep breaths again and breathe in success and breathe out celebration!