Creative hearts and hands
Endless possibilities
Collage, Decorated Box, Symbol, Design your own journal, Mask,
Imagine
Glue, Scissors, Glitter, Paper Sequins, “Doodads”,

Paint, Dream
Who Knew?
Self Discovery is just plain FUN

Open to women 16 to—–no upper age limit
3rd Saturday  10AM-12:30 PM     $50.00   Materials Provided

Dates for next groups: Aug 20, Sept 17, Oct 15, Nov 19

7540 Metropolitan Drive Suite 109 San Diego CA 92108
Marge Hicke   858 566 4651 marge@margehicke.com
To insure enough supplies and space, please register
Call 858 566 4651 or  complete the “Request An Appointment” form by clicking here.
NEXT DATE  August 20, 2011

COME SEE WHAT WE ARE ALL ABOUT AND CREATE WITH US!

Creative hearts and hands
Endless possibilities
Collage, Decorated Box, Symbol, Design your own journal, Mask,
Imagine
Glue, Scissors, Glitter, Paper Sequins, “Doodads”,

Paint, Dream
Who Knew?
Self Discovery is just plain FUN

Open to women 16 to—–no upper age limit
3rd Saturday  10AM-12:30 PM     $50.00   Materials Provided

Dates for next groups: Aug 20, Sept 17, Oct 15, Nov 19

7540 Metropolitan Drive Suite 109 San Diego CA 92108
Marge Hicke   858 566 4651 marge@margehicke.com
To insure enough supplies and space, please register
Call 858 566 4651   or  complete the “Request An Appointment” form by clicking here.
NEXT DATE  August 20, 2011

COME SEE WHAT WE ARE ALL ABOUT AND CREATE WITH US!

Let’s continue our exploration of Self Esteem.

We began with self acceptance. How did it go? With self acceptance we learn we can trust ourselves and follow our inner guide to make right decisions. I like to say: Live by your values; be clear, honest and direct.

Today we will look at what we expect from ourselves.
Set realistic dreams, and expectations
Explore the fine line between expecting too much and expecting too little
Break dreams and goals into doable steps

Check out the “fear factors”.
How do you feel about exploring NEW thoughts, behaviors, possibilities? About trying something you have never done before?
About being successful?

Breathe in possibilities;
Breathe out fears.
Picture yourself confident and excited.
Breathe in;
Breathe out.

Try something new; learn more about yourself. Take a risk and accept yourself!

After writing about self-acceptance as a step to high self esteem I had the opportunity to go deeper with my own self acceptance.  I took a risk and was richly rewarded.  Exploring self acceptance is much like peeling the onion—lots of layers to be explored!!!

Let’s continue our exploration of Self Esteem.

We began with self acceptance. How did it go? With self acceptance we learn we can trust ourselves and follow our inner guide to make right decisions. I like to say: Live by your values; be clear, honest and direct.

Today we will look at what we expect from ourselves.
Set realistic dreams, and expectations
Explore the fine line between expecting too much and expecting too little
Break dreams and goals into doable steps

Check out the “fear factors”.
How do you feel about exploring NEW thoughts, behaviors, possibilities? About trying something you have never done before?
About being successful?

Breathe in possibilities;
Breathe out fears.
Picture yourself confident and excited.
Breathe in;
Breathe out.

Try something new; learn more about yourself. Take a risk and accept yourself!

After writing about self-acceptance as a step to high self esteem I had the opportunity to go deeper with my own self acceptance.  I took a risk and was richly rewarded.  Exploring self acceptance is much like peeling the onion—lots of layers to be explored!!!

Let’s begin with acceptance–and the most important person to accept is YOURSELF! The practice of today is to accept both your strengths and your weaknesses. Perfection is not the goal! You do not have to be perfect to be a good person or to be loveable.

Take action:
Make a list of strengthes and weaknesses
Take a deep breath in and out;
Breathe in acceptance of youself;
Breathe out the  gift you are to others

Practing self acceptance will:
Increase productivity
Decrease stress
Decrease depression
Open the door for possibilities

Breathe in acceptance; breathe out possibilities

The possibilities are the gift for the day.

Marge

As we left the garden, we renewed our belief that when we are clear, honest and direct and act with good conscience and compassion, we will create monumental moments in our lives!

Take a step in your garden today! Give yourself a gift and take with you someone whom you cherish.

I invite you to take a deep breath—and another–and close your eyes. Breathe in the successes you have had in your life, for I am sure there are many. I realize you may not recognize them because of the meaning society puts on the word “success.”

“We walk away from our dreams, afraid that we may fail, or, worse yet, that we may succeed.”
Finding Forester–a great film. If you have not seen it, you may want to rent it.

“Success is liking who I am;
Liking what I do;
And liking how I do it.” Maya Angelou

I wonder what success is for you. For the Olympic contender it is doing better today than yesterday; doing personal best. For all of us it is doing our personal best and, yet, that is different for each of us. For the shy person it may be a smile to a stranger; for the clinically depressed it may be getting out of bed; for the CEO it may be the big contract.

Some say “Success is the quality of the Journey.” I say, take time to celebrate the successes of your day; write them in a journal or in your planner. What we focus on grows! So focus on and celebrate the project you finally began and the time you took for yourself and the letter you wrote to a friend and the e mail you answered—and —and — and ……. and I will celebrate the success of finally sharing these thoughts with you.

Enjoy each moment! Take a couple of deep breaths again and breathe in success and breathe out celebration!

Special Time — one-on-one time for small amounts of time. Focused attention. A time which is not interrupted (not even for pagers and mobile phones!). A time which is never taken away as punishment or to “get even.” Special Time is a commitment to relationship.

Special Time with children is the easiest to define. It is one parent with one child for a length of ten or fifteen minutes. The optimum frequency is every day, but a consistent time, as often as possible, is more important than no time. This is not a time to remind the child of missed chores or inappropriate behavior. The child is in charge. By that I mean he may choose the activity (except video games and television). She decides if she wants the parent to watch or to participate. Using a timer prevents the parent from becoming the “timekeeper.” Make appropriate eye contact. Enter your child’s world and talk about his interests. Listen. Listen. Listen. Enjoy your child.

When there are older children, Special Time may change in frequency or length. Consistency is paramount and the adult may have to insist, because the job of the adolescent is to resist. Emphatically, this is a time to enter the young person’s world, without trying to rearrange it. Again! Listen! Listen! Listen! The more adults are willing to listen and suspend judgment, the more the older children will trust them with their ideas, opinions, and daily life.

How often in our overcommitted world does our most significant relationship suffer? I meet with couples whose only night out is their visit to my office! The person with whom we have chosen to spend our life deserves ten to fifteen minutes of our individual attention. The relationship deserves a time where we make eye contact and listen to what is shared with us, where we listen without interruption, where we enter the other’s world, suspending our own, for a few minutes.

Many other types of relationships come to mind, for instance, adult children with their parents, parents with their adult children, friends. We can affect the quality of these relationships with Special Time. With these cherished individuals consistency and frequency may vary, but the listening and connecting, one-on-one, often yields a view of the person’s life and heritage that might not otherwise be known.

While Special Time varies with age groups and individuals, several aspects are always present: eye contact, focus on the other, suspension of our own ideas and world, consistency and frequency. However, the most important tool of all is the ability to LISTEN with our hearts.